Today is a new day and about 85% of yesterday’s anger has been smoothed over. It is hard to admit, but Rufus is much more mature and composed when it comes to arguments. He is humble and willing to apologize and look for solutions, while I often hold onto anger and shut down. It’s difficult to continue contending with someone who just wants to make things work. After yesterday’s quarrel, we rehash a new plan for assigning tasks, which revolves around one of my favorite tools, lists. We make a list of all the things that need to be done in a day, categorized by planting, weeding, harvesting, and projects. Then we talk it over and decide which one of us or both of us should work on that task. We agree on it before we head out to work in the morning and I feel better already. Rufus also agreed to train me on some of the other tools around the farm so that we can share the responsibilities which require them. I feel a little bit bad about how I behaved yesterday, but sometimes I feel like you have to make a scene to make people pay attention. Sometimes you have to be loud to be heard.

~Joy